Learning to Land Back After Time Away

Coming back from vacation, holidays, or even just a break from your normal routine can feel way harder than it should. One minute you’re relaxed, the next minute your brain is in full overwhelm mode, trying to catch up on everything at once.

In this episode, I talk about why that transition can feel so intense and what I’ve learned over the years about easing yourself back into real life without going straight into stress, pressure, and overdrive. I share a personal story from a trip that really changed the way I think about transitions, pacing, and how we move between different parts of our lives.

If you ever come back from time off feeling behind, scattered, or like you have to sprint to catch up, this episode is for you.

If you want support creating a business and life that actually feels good to live in, not just one you’re constantly trying to keep up with, you can book a one-on-one consult with me here and see what that might look like to get the support you need: www.tamarcoaching.com/consult

Transcript

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Hey, hey, friends! Welcome back. Welcome back, brave little fingers. You like that name? I hope you guys are doing well. A little housekeeping before we jump into this episode, which is actually I recorded another episode for you guys that I was going to have drop today. And then I decided that actually this episode I want to drop before because, you know, most many of you who are celebrating the holiday of Passover, Pesach, have been gone maybe on an actual vacation or just taking a break from work because our kids are home, vacation mode. Many of you might not be on spring break and be coming back. And I want to share a little hack when returning back to, you know, work life and school life and all that kind of stuff. I think we're going to be really helpful. And so I need this episode to drop right now. But in this, but what's going to happen is that next week you're also going to get wishes from me that I hope Passover was great. And you're at the tail end of it now. So I hope it's really beautiful and the freedom and all the stuff. So you're going to get doubly blessed with I hope your end of your Passover was good was good. That's just what I want to share with you guys. But again, today I'm going to share. I want to share a little hack I think that will be helpful to you. And it's going to be a shorty. This is going to be a short episode. And I'm actually going to throw in, I'm going to start doing a little bit of short episodes throughout my longer ones most of the time. You guys are listening into me for about 25-30 minutes. There are going to be a couple five, 10-minute ones, you know, sporadic. No, I've zero, like, I'm not reading a script. I'm not not don't have an outline at all this time. Literally just speaking to you. So anyway, yes, I want to give you a little hack that has been really helpful for me that I've been doing for the past like six years or so. Whenever I'm transitioning from a vacation away or a holiday away, and I'm going back into work life. Because if you're anything like me, my little brain gets incredibly overwhelmed during that transition time. My little brain thinks, oh my God, we now have to catch up. You've seven days behind our our timeline. What were you thinking when you were away for seven days? Now we're behind seven days. And it's like, no brain, sorry, dude. I actually planned that. That's actually part of my life too. So it's just funny that our brains do not get that part of it. And they freak. And at least my mind does. Mine totally freaks out. And so that transition time can be so overwhelming because I'm trying to, you know, do all the laundry post-trip, you know, restock the fridge and coach my clients and it just feels insane. So this is a little hack I want to offer you guys that I've been doing, which is to create a buffer day, the day before I leave and go somewhere, as well as the day be the day before I go back. So for example, if I'm going to be going away for seven days, I will then make it nine days. One day before, one day after. And what happens there is the day before, let's say, for example, let's say I'm going on a trip to Mexico just for fun. That sounds actually really fun. So I'm going on a seven-day trip there. So a day before I leave, I will take the day to collect my passport and my charger and pack my clothes, go for, you know, my fun plain treats, which is always black licorice and boiled cashews and things like that. And just do things like that. I will not book clients, I will not record podcasts, I will not try to quickly get it all in and, you know, make it happen the way I used to study in high school, like quickly a cram in before test. No. And then at any extra time I have, again, will not go to business. It will go to a long walk on the beach, kind of reconnecting with all the things I love about home, you know. Go out for coffee with a friend, go do something special with one of my kids, that kind of stuff. And then I'll go on my trip. So it's almost like I'm starting my vacation early, and I'll have that in mind. Okay? And at the end, the book end of it, after the trip is over, I'll do the same thing. But the activities will obviously be different. There'll be things that help land me back home. So doing the laundry, you know, unpacking, doing the laundry, restocking stocking the fridge if that needs to happen. And again, any extra time does not go to coaching clients, recording podcasts, making content, things like that. No, that doesn't happen till the following day. What happens is any extra time, I do the things that I love. Again, going for walks on the beach, meeting friends, going to hear music, you know, whatever it is. But it has nothing to do with my business. And this has shifted things for me significant significantly, I will tell you. It has allowed me to like, oh, like land back into myself and and not feel that overwhelmed and realize, okay, no, in the following day, that's when business-like things can go back on my schedule. And I c I let literally return feeling so calm and collected with that. You know, I I remember I had gone to El Salvador, I think I had gone there for like two months. I was going there to help out the community. You know, we would we were planting, creating gardens, you know, helping women kind of create a space so they can then harvest and and sell these vegetables and create income for their villages. It was like an amazing experience. And I remember being on the plane going there, and about like two hours before the flight landed, these women were putting on their aprons. And they're like these beautiful aprons, you know, very colorful. And but, you know, those half aprons, they're not the kind of aprons that I wear, maybe you wear, like they were kind of this half-kind. Anyway, so I had my friend who speaks Spanish, I did not speak Spanish, asked them, like, what's going on? Well, why is everyone putting on their aprons? And they told her, like, because the moment we land, we want to go back, we want to be cooking, cooking dinner and making things happen, you know, like, you know, making things happen right away. And, you know, I've just been thinking about this because I think there's two things about this story actually that are connected to this episode, which is number one, it is a privilege what I'm offering here. This hack of extending your vacation or your time away by one day before and one day after. It is a privilege that many people in this world don't have. And so I know when I take that time, I am conscious of that and really kind of say to myself, like, I'm so grateful that I live in a world, in a country, in a life that I can take that time. But the second piece also is the awareness that these women, you know, are also like what they're doing is helping them land because how they do things, how they, at least the village that I was in El Salvador, I can't speak for everyone in El Salvador, but it was so nurturing and nervous system friendly in terms of they're not just cooking on their own in their own little kitchen, closed doors, or they're cooking outside, first of all. Their things are outside. They're cooking with each other. Kids are running around, dogs are running around, they're, you know, with their tribe, their community, and it's like the way of life, right? And they're cooking like all the time. And they're like singing and they're doing all these kinds of things. And unfortunately, the way that most of us do things is not like that. And so there is a place where kind of we help create that vibe in those landing days, in those buffer days. So, anyways, I wanted to share that story because it really kind of connects to like what I'm sharing here. Anyways, I hope that's helpful. I hope that you can create as you know, as you're about to enter back into the the other part of your life, the non-vacation, non-holiday place. I hope you can find yourself a little buffer time, a little buffer zone there. Anyways, also just want to say really quickly that I'm gonna be opening up enrollment for my six-month coaching package, one-on-one private coaching package soon. And there's gonna be an additional bonus to it. I've been thinking up stuff, not gonna share it quite yet. Also, here, all you entrepreneurs out there, I want to give you permission to share with your people that something something's brewing without you knowing all the details because I know that something very cool is happening and I'm gonna be connecting it. It will be an offer added onto the VIP coaching package. It's gonna be a special thing. So stay tuned for that. And if you want to go ahead and book a one-on-one consult with me so we can find out a little bit of where you are and where you want to go, and if I'm the woman to help you make that happen, you can go to my website and um tomarcoaching.com slash consult and sign up for one of those. Anyway, guys, I love you all so much. I hope you did have a beautiful Passover Pesach wherever you are, if you're celebrating, and a beautiful spring break wherever you are, and go get yourself some buffer days, ladies and gentlemen. Like get yourself some of that good old ah landing and start the vacation early or end it in a really peaceful way. I love you all so much.