Sufficiency: Leaving "Not Enough" Behind for the Year Ahead

In this final episode of the year, we’re talking about something most of us live with without even realizing it: the quiet, constant soundtrack of not enough.

Not enough time, not enough progress, not enough clarity, not enough energy… and the belief that somehow, we’re not enough either.

Inspired by Lynne Twist’s book The Soul of Money, I share one of the most powerful stories I’ve ever read — a lesson from a village in Senegal that completely shifted how I understand sufficiency, possibility, and the way we relate to what we already have.

We’ll explore what “enough” actually means, how scarcity quietly shapes our days, and how to soften the noise as we head into a new year.

Plus, I’m sharing a simple 24-hour practice you can try right away.

And, for the first time, a new way to work with me in January. You can check out this newest offer in the link below. 

A grounded, gentle episode to end the year on a different note.

Important Links:

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Details on Lynn Twist and Soul of Money:

https://soulofmoney.org/

Transcript

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Hey friends, welcome back to Brave Little Things. Happy to have you here. This is officially the last episode of the year, which feels completely wild to say out loud. How insane is that, you guys? And before we dive into today's topic, I want to share something I've never offered before. Got a new offer happening here. And honestly, it feels like a really good way to start the new year together. So, you know, for years, I've only offered one way to work with me privately, the full six-month coaching package. But, however, for the month of January, January 2026, that's the first time I've said that, by the way, 2026. But for the month of January 2026, I'm opening up something new. A three-session package. I'm calling Success Series. It's for anyone who's been wanting coaching but isn't ready to jump into a full six-month package yet, or just wants like focused and supportive reset to start the year with some clarity and some momentum, which, you know, I'm not a bad idea for really everybody in the entire universe, especially our like political, our political leaders, quote unquote leaders. I'm not going to go there. But anyway, and here's a little fun added bonus here that is really fun. If you do the success series package, and then you decide you actually, you know what, you want to continue into the full six-month coaching container, the success series that you purchased is on me. You get to roll right in without paying for both. So it's almost like maybe it's not almost like it's like you get the success series for free. So if you've been wanting to work together, or you just know you need support, you need direction, you need freaking accountability in this new year, this is the time to hop onto it. You can reach out anytime to ask any questions and just grab your spot. You can DM me, email me, reach out to me in all the ways. So let's make it happen. All right, guys, let's get into today's episode. It's gonna be good. Right before actually I came upstairs to write out and then record this episode. I had this tiny moment that made me laugh because it was so on topic. And if you listen, if you live in Israel and probably um actually most European countries, you know we don't have endless hot water. We have this thing called the dude, which I we like, you know, the dude. And it's a switch that you turn on to heat up the water tank. You know, you don't you don't have just endless hot water like you do in the States or other countries. And if you forget to turn on that dude, well, good freaking look. You're taking yourself a cold shower in the winter. So before I came up, I asked Akiva if the dude was on because I want to shower before recording. And he told me, you know, yeah, we have plenty of hot water. I actually just showered, you're fine. Totally reasonable, got it, okay. And still I went downstairs to turn it back on. Because my brain was like, hmm, I don't trust that. Just in case, let's make sure. And it hit me how automatic that reaction is. That tiny instinct of what if there isn't enough hot water? And I had to laugh because I knew exactly what episode I was about to record. I was gonna record this episode. And I was like, this is exactly what we're talking about. I don't know if anyone out there also who has dudes also has a hot water not enoughness situation, but it's I many people, my family are constantly like, is there hot water? Is there enough hot water? Should I put the dude back on? Anyways, I want to save this topic, this actually whole conversation around not enough and how to live into into sufficiency for this final episode of the year, because the end of the year always brings up two important things. Where am I going next? And number two, what am I ready to leave behind? And if there's one thing most of us would benefit from benefit from from leaving behind, or at least softening, is this constant background belief that we're behind, that we're lacking something, that we're supposed to have more of something by now. This not enoughness is basically the water that we all swim in day in and day out. You know, this is what you'll probably what's going on in your brain. I didn't sleep enough. I don't have enough energy today. I don't have enough time for that. My business should be further along. I should be further along. I'm not enough to pull this off. Right? It's like the second you wake up, it's like the second you wake up, you're like, I didn't have enough sleep, right? And then it just spirals nonstop. And the wild thing is if it doesn't even feel like a thought anymore. Am I right, guys? It feels like reality. It's like I literally don't have enough time. I, you know, got six hours of sleep. I literally do not get enough sleep. But as we close out this year, I want you to imagine something simple. Okay. If you are in a safe place, not driving a car, basically, you can go ahead and close your eyes. If you are driving a car, please do not close your eyes. You can save this for later. But close your eyes if you are, and picture like what would your life feel like next December, December 2026, if the not enough soundtrack was turned down even just by 50%. Half the amount of time that your go-to is I don't have enough this, I don't have enough of that, I'm not enough, you know, my business is not enough, whatever it is, is turn down about fifty percent, right? But what could be? What could your December 2026 feel like, look like, be like? Right, you would feel different. Your decisions would feel different, your pace would feel different, your nervous system would feel different. And this is really why I chose this topic for the last episode. Because you can plan all the goals in the world, but if your relationship with enough doesn't shift, you'll never feel like you're actually getting anywhere at all. Because you'll hit that goal and your mind will mainly be like, yeah, but not enough. Let's just keep on going until like it really feels like enough. And then you'll hit that goal and the same thing will happen over and over. You know, when I I think about this topic about sufficiency and how we relate to what we have, there is one person whose work shape me more than anyone else. And it's a woman by the name of Lynn Twist. If you don't know her, I'll tell you a little bit about her. Lynn is a global activist, a human humanitarian, a fundraiser, a fundraiser, and honestly, one of the clearest voices I've encountered on money and me and everything that goes around that. She worked with communities all over the world from the, and I know I'm not going to pronounce this correctly, but I believe the people's names are the Acuar people in the Amazon, as well as families in Senegal, to some of the wealthiest donors on the planet. I mean, she really got both worlds. She was really living in both worlds. And she wrote a book called The Soul of Money, which is by far my favorite money book. I will put it in the show notes so you guys will have that info. But, you know, and I put money in quotes because it's not really about money. Money is just the doorway she uses to explore how we relate to worth and trust and enoughness and the stories we've inherited about scarcity and all the stuff. And, you know, for years I even gifted this book to my clients at the end of our work together because it's one of those books that rearranges you just a little bit. And if you're one of my past clients who got to receive that book, you know exactly what I'm talking about. It's literally a Bible that sits on my little desktop that I open up every once in a while to review. And it names things you felt but you couldn't articulate. And I totally want to share one of her stories here today, actually, with you guys, the one that lives in my bones and captures the heart of sufficiency in the simplest, most human way possible. Okay. So, and again, she's got, you know, the also the reason why I love her book is because she really tells stories through, you know, everything she teaches is through a story, and that's my love language. I love a good story, I love a good metaphor. If you're on my email list, you know how much I love to tell stories and give teachings and lessons through that. So the story takes place in a small village in Senegal, which, by the way, another love story, a love language of mine is Africa. I'm a big Africa lover, been there three times. Hope to be back sometime soon again. I love the African people. So, anyway, the story takes place in a small village in Senegal. It's dry land, long days, very little infrastructure, the kind of place where water is absolutely everything. And when Alina arrived, she met with women who essentially held the community together, which, ladies, just kind of how it is everywhere, right? Whether we get the the the the what's it called, not the focus, but we get the attention or we get the what is it, acknowledgement. That's the word I was looking for, or not, that is the case. But, you know, these women, these mothers, grandmothers, you know, the ones caring for everyone, they are the ones that kept the community together. And these women told her very clearly that there was water in their village. Not nearby and not obvious, but they believed it was there underneath the ground, they tended every single day. And for those who've been to Africa know that, you know, water is the woman's job. They're the ones who go out and fetch water every single day. It is a very dangerous situation because they get oftentimes raped and sometimes killed and sometimes don't make it back, and they're, you know, going there, they're they're walking for kilometers and kilometers in crazy weather, oftentimes carrying their babies on their backs, and then obviously having to carry the water back, and it's a whole thing. And so they believe that there was underneath the ground they tended every single day was water. And but the men in the community were skeptical. They had already tried digging before nothing came up, and in their minds that was proof enough. The water just isn't there. But the women didn't carry that story. They said, no, sorry, the water's here. We just haven't dug gone deep enough. And this part is actually really important. These were women in a culture where the men traditionally held authority. Women were not the decision makers, their opinions weren't always thought or valued, right? So the fact that they spoke up, that they trusted themselves enough to insist on what they knew was freaking powerful in itself. Especially when you consider that many of us, even as women in Western culture, with freedom freedom and choice and opportunity, still struggle to trust what we know. We still shrink, we still doubt our voices, we still hesitate to speak what we see before, you know, the proof is there. I know this comes up all the time in my coaching. I mean, this is literally 90% of what I coach on when I'm coaching my women. You know, these women just didn't hesitate. They gathered in a circle, drumming, singing, creating this steady grounding energy. And the men dug where the women told them to dig, which by the way, I love that part of the story. Like they had this like Nivua, like they had this like knowing, this uh vision, this prophet, you know, they just they knew something was happening, and then they were like, okay, now you gotta do it. So the men dug where the women told them to dig. Hours passed, the sun was hot, and the work was definitely slow because they're doing everything by hand, but then water came. Water came. Cold, clear, clean water rising from the ground, right? Just enough for them. And from that enough, everything shifted. The village grew food again. They're able to water their gardens and their fields with clean water. People could wash themselves, children became healthier, women no longer spent hours walking for water, which gave them so much more time. And time created energy, and energy created possibility, and possibility created community, improvements, education and growth. Sufficiency literally rippled outward nonstop. And their conditions didn't magically become easy, but the belief in what was possible changed because their relationship with themselves changed. And you know, one of Lynn Twist's core teachings is that sufficiency isn't an amount. I think most of us learned that that sufficiency is a kind of a certain kind of amount, whether you have a certain kind of amount or not. But she says sufficiency isn't an amount, it's an experience, a way of seeing, a context we generate. Enough isn't something you get to to one day, right? It's something you practice. And, you know, she talks about the again, I'm totally butchering this. I wish I knew how to say it, but about the Acuar people in Ecuador, another community she worked with, and how their sense of wealth comes from presence and connection, honoring what's already here and taking only what's needed with a trust that more will come when it's time. They're not like chasing, they're not comparing, they're not in a hurry. And because of that, they experience a natural daily sense of enoughness. They don't wake up feeling behind. They're not measuring their worth by how fast they move or how much they produce. Sufficiency is their baseline. Can you imagine, guys? And I think that's why so many of us are what so many so many of us are missing. We think we need more before we start. More clarity, more confidence, more time, more results. But sufficiency says, Who do I actually have right now that I can work with? Scarcity is steady, and scarcity says I need more be scarcity, sorry, says I need does not say need more before I can begin. Start with what is here. And anyone who's been to a third world country knows this to be true for almost every third world country. I know I've spent time in El Salvador. Again, I mentioned a few different African countries, and that was definitely my biggest takeaway when I was there. These people, holy crap, they've got some secret here because they are living a freaking happy ass life with literally one shirt, barely living in a hut. I don't know how much food they have, they have to walk miles, kilometers for, you know, fresh water, all this stuff, but these people are happy, and their secret is that, is that they're just sitting in their own sufficiency day in and day out, which is incredibly amazing. And the beautiful part, if you haven't heard the beautiful part yet, is when you live from sufficiency, you often end up creating so much more. Not because you hustled harder, but because your creativity isn't being suffocated by panic and fear, right? I've mentioned this before, but if you are in fear and feeling like the lacking of, you literally cut off. Like I want you to think about it like a hose, and then the hose is twisted as soon as like panic and fear comes through, and you no longer have access to your creativity and your resourcefulness and your knowing. It literally just gets clocked. You can't, you can't, the water's not going to flow from there. Okay, so I want to leave you with something simple because I want us to be able to take this work into the new year for real. Okay. And anything we start, we always have to start with awareness. So I'm offering you guys the enoughness audit. Okay, the enoughness audit. For the next 24 hours, I want you just to notice every time your brain offers you, I don't have enough time, I'm not doing enough, I'm not far enough along, I don't know enough, this isn't happening fast enough, I'm not enough. I don't want you to fix it. I just want you to notice it. Okay? You can write it down in a little journal every time it comes up and you wake up and you're like, oh, I'm so tired, oh, I wish I had more sleep. I don't have enough sleep. Boom, write it down. Okay? And after you make this long list for 24 hours, of course, there's gonna be some hours where you're sleeping and maybe you're not, but you never know. Things you know can climb into your little dream there, can crawl there. I want you to ask the questions, what is actually true right now? For e every single one that you wrote down, I want you to go through them and say, what is actually true here? Do I have enough to take the next step? Do I have enough energy for one thing? Do I have enough clarity for today to make happen what I want to happen today? Do I have enough support to make a decision? Do I have enough progress to keep going? Okay, you're not trying to force a positivity, but you're just taking notice of how many times am I in the not enough and what is actually even true there. You're looking at what's real instead of what's just habitual because sufficiency usually isn't something that you build, it's something that you notice. Okay? So I want you to do that. And listen, I'm offering us a 24 hour audit, but you can really do this for a whole week and just take notice. Zero judgments, okay? No judgments of yourself. I want you just to say, huh, interesting. It's interesting to see how much my brain offers this. What is true and what is not true. Okay? Because once you start to become aware, that's when we can start to do the work and see what do I want to keep and what do I want to give away. So as we end this year, I want to remember. I want you to remember, I want me to remember, I want the whole world to freaking remember. You are not behind. Okay, I want to say that again. You're not behind, you're not late, you're not supposed to be anywhere other than where you freaking are. Your pace is your pace. Your path is your path, and there is so much more available to you than your little scarcity brain lets you see. Okay? And listen, if this conversation stirs something in you, or you know you want support heading into the new year, quick reminder for January. I'm offering that success series package, three private coaching sessions to get you grounded clear and supported. And if you decide to move into the six-month container afterwards, those three sessions are free. Okay, it's my way of helping you step in, step out of 2025 into 2026 without pressure or overwhelm. And if you're curious to think about it and you want questions about it, you can just reach out. Okay? And I'll as always just remember they've got the monthly free group coaching calls happening and they are on fire. I will tell you, people, I'm having so much fun. I'm having so much fun meeting so many of you. Like, you know, you're you listen to me on the podcast, you are, you know, follow me on Instagram, in my newsletter, whatever it is, and then boom, you're like in front of my face, and I get to coach you and meet you and and you know, learn together and all the stuff. It's amazing. So you can definitely hop on to my website to grab it to see when is the next call so you can be a part of it. So thank you guys for listening, reflecting, and being part of this space in your own way. It is so beautiful to be part of a community who really is wanting to step into their brave little things. And if you do the enough enoughness audit, which I imagine that you are going to, I would genuinely love to hear what you noticed, what you learned, what you said. Alright guys, I will see you in the new year. I mean, what? I will see you in the new year. Have a beautiful rest of the day, rest of the week, and see you in the new year.