Why We Give Up

Ever find yourself this close to giving up on something you actually really want?

In this episode, I get real about those sneaky moments when we quit — not because it’s time to move on, but because our brains get scared, impatient, or tired of waiting for results.

I share stories from my coaching work, what’s really going on in the brain when things take longer than we hoped, and a few surprisingly simple ways to stay in the game when you want to bail.

This work is about learning how to stay long enough to see your efforts bloom. 

If you’re craving a little nudge to not give up just yet, this one’s for you.

 Resources mentioned:

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→ Join the next free group coaching call: tamarcoaching.com/group

Transcript

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Hey you. Hi you, how you doing, brave little things? Welcome back to the show. And I want to say that I have been getting some damn beautiful messages from you guys. I really am been loving on them. And I want to say, please keep them coming. Keep them coming my way. It makes me so happy hearing how these episodes are landing, how you're using them, how you're applying them, how what's shifting inside of you. I freaking love it. It feels like this big circular love loop. You're loving on me, I'm loving on you, you're loving on me, I'm loving on you. It's just so good. Bring it on all day long. Love it. And before we jump in, I just want to mention last night I hosted my first of many free monthly group coaching calls. And it was so fantastic. It was such a beautiful crew of women who were bravely showing up to get coached, get their business coached, just really come coming for the growth. And it was so incredible. So, you know, if you are here listening, been here for a while, listening to the podcast, and starting to feel like curious about taking this work a little deeper, how would that look? What would happen? I really want to invite you into these free group coaching calls. It's open to anyone who wants to experience this kind of coaching in real time, no charge, no pressure, just you showing up for yourself and your business. And you can grab the next date that's coming up at tomorrowcoaching.com/slash group. So just hop on over there. I'd love to have you, love to see you, love to bring this, you know. Oftentimes when you're, you know, as entrepreneurs and just in this time of our lives, in this time of the world, like you don't, we don't get to necessarily meet each other. So it's so cool for me to have, like it was last night, I had like all these folks who I never met who I'd been in touch with on Instagram and were following each other, and boom, they're in front of me. I'm coaching them on their business. Pretty damn cool. Sometimes technology works for us. So today, guys, we are talking about why we give up. Why we give up. And I just want to say right from the start, right off the bat, that I fully 100% cosign giving up or quitting, quote unquote, when it's time, when the time is right. So I want to say that just to start the whole thing off. Okay. I actually just coached a woman last night in this group coaching call who had been running her business, I think it was for seven years, and she came to the call like a really she just was done. She was tired, she was frustrated. I think believe her words were, I'm over it. I'm just over this business thing. And I could see, I could feel how tired. She could have said nothing and I would have known exactly what was going on. But as we coached, she started to realize she didn't have to walk away, if she was going to walk away from this business at all, that she didn't have to be full of anger about it or frustration or resentment, right? She didn't have to leave with from burnout or regret that certain things should have happened in different kinds of ways. She could look back at everything that business gave her, the lives she changed. She said that there were numerous clients of hers who had gone to other these practitioners and these doctors and they couldn't get healed, and they came to her and they fully were healed, that she could really be in that, knowing how amazing her business was. So I just want to say to give up. There are times and places when we quote unquote give up and we are we are done, and that's absolutely okay. In fact, that's one of the bravest things that we can do, honestly, and this is what I told her too. You know, that part, you know, the the part that when we say, this part of my life gave me everything it was meant to. I'm grateful and I'm ready for what's next. That is so brave. Right? That kind of quitting. It's grounded, it's peaceful, it's closing a chapter, it's like I think every everything that everybody would ever want. And that's not what we're talking about today. That's what I want to clarify. We're not talking about that kind of giving up, closing doors, shutting things down, quote unquote quitting. What we're talking about is the other kind, the kind where we don't actually want to quit, at least not in a deep place, a real deep place inside of ourselves. We want to quit because we start to feel scared or tired or impatient, right? When it takes longer than we thought it would, and our brains are like whispering or oftentimes freaking shouting, maybe this isn't the work. Maybe we should stop. Maybe I'm not on the right path, right? It's not that we're weak here. It's just how our brains work. It literally just means that we're, oh, you're a healthy human being. Your brain's main job here is to keep you alive, and that's what it's doing. That's all it's happening. It wants things simple, predictable, familiar, right? Your brain's like the the farmer that's been living on that patch of land for like, you know, his whole life, his father's whole life, his grandfather's whole life, and everything's the same, and the neighbors are the same, and let's just keep it the same. That's how your brain is, and that's how your brain wants you to continue to exist. Because those are the things that have kept you safe up until now, and that is literally all it cares about. So when you try to do something and to do something new, and to do something good, something that feels stretchy, your brain's like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, what are you doing? What's going on here? I don't think so, right? Everything we've done so far has worked fine, Mr. Like or Mrs. Let's just keep doing that. That's what your brain is saying. It doesn't care that you want to write a freaking book, or, you know, create this new offer in your business and, you know, and and design all the and speak to a marketer, a a coaching, branding coach, and all the kind of stuff. Or go to the gym and you know, f finally maybe for the first time in your life and actually start to work on your arm muscles and things like that. It doesn't care about any of those things. It just cares that you stay alive while doing it. That's all it matters. So you've got your brain saying, stay safe, stay the same, and your soul saying, like, yeah, but I want to live. I don't want to just be alive. I want to freaking live. And that's where the tension comes from. And that's why sometimes we give up on things that actually matter the most to us. And so let's let's talk about it. Let's talk about the first big reason why we give up. Okay? And really the main reason. This is a huge, huge deal, especially in this day and age, which is we lose patience. It's really that simple. Why we give up sometimes is because we lose freaking patience. We live in a world that's completely wired for instant gratification, right? We train and it's also what our brains want. So it's like our our cult our world, our culture is giving us what our brains want. So it's like seems like a match made in heaven, right? We're trained to want things now and to panic if they take too long. I mean, let's just even give an example of Amazon Prime. And that's just one of many, right? You can order something and it's at your door the next day. At the most, maybe two days, but that's like what? I mean, now listen, bottom line. Now here in Israel, that's a different story. We get a little bit more, you call it maybe like spiritual practice in patience when it comes to Amazon, because you know, our Amazon packages take their sweet old time, probably maybe up to a month, which I have to say, you know, I think for many folks who've moved from different countries like the US to Israel, I think they'll experience this. It's like a real thing. Like when you all of a sudden can't get your Amazon package within 24 hours and more like 30 days, it is a real test in patience. It is a real experience, which is shows how different how how how our world has changed, right? You know, because most of the world is moving at lightning speed. Just think about it. Fast food, fast Wi-Fi, fast results, fast likes, fast, fast, fast, right? It just keeps on the world just keeps on pumping out things that like our brain has been trained to want. Everything about the culture we live in is designed for exactly that. Exigned for like designed to make waiting feel like you failed. If you have to wait, you failed. So, I mean, you know, I don't when I was a kid, I and I think that probably some of you can remember this because this probably happened with you also. When I was a kid, we used on the back of cereal boxes, we used to collect um points. Like you can cut out a little part of those like points. And if you had a certain amount of points, then you can mail in to the company and they would send you a little surprise. It was always some like super cheap, plasticky kind of toy, but that you like, you know, it broke within like time of delivery, basically. But we would work so hard, me and my siblings, to collect these points and then to like send them in the mail, and you know, we had to cut first to cut them up, save them, mail them. We worked really hard, you know, and we'd always like, you know, if there's certain kind of boxes of cereal that had the points, we'd tell my mom to go buy those specific kinds and everything. And then we would have to wait, like I think about four to six weeks for that little plastic prize to come in the mail. And we waited, and we absolutely waited, and we were excited, and we checked the mailbox every day. And I mean, could you even imagine? I cannot even imagine my own kids doing this right now. Like that is so far from their reality. They'd be like, yeah, that's not happening. Like, what, four to six weeks? I mean, even just cutting them the points out would be like so like, what? They would like not, they would not be doing this at all. You know, even tell you the truth, even when they're watching a movie. I remember walking in one time to my daughter and her friends watching a movie. We have this big screen thing and whatever, and I was like, I was excited for them because they hadn't done that in such a long time. I'm like, it's so childhood nostalgia. Yes, like, yes, yes, have friends over, watch a movie. And I walk in, and every single one of them is the movie's on, popcorn bowls are like still full, and they are all looking down at their phones, like scrolling through their TikToks and their Instagrams and their messages and things like that. They didn't even have the patience to watch that movie, right? Patience has become something we don't even realize that we're missing because we've stopped needing it for most things. They did they did not, they were unable to fully watch the movie without like flipping through a million other kinds of things to keep their attention span. It was wild. It was crazy to see that, to be honest. And when it comes to that stuff, when it comes to stuff that actually matters, right? I mean, listen, fast food doesn't really matter, but it is pretty crazy also. It's like you literally can like drive up. I remember just seeing right now, I have a friend who's visiting the States right now, and she drove up, and she showed this thing in the stories where she was like driving up to, you know, a drive-thru and ordered some kind of donut or sorts and some kind of shake or coffee or something. And then all she had to do was like literally pull in. I mean, I know what I'm telling you is not it's not rocket science. Many of you probably do that, and there's literally, absolutely, I want to say, there is no judgment. I think this is very cool, but it's pretty crazy. She spoke into a microphone, someone she didn't even see, put the order together within 30 seconds. She pulled up to the next window, boom, she had her donut, she had a drink. She did not have to wait. That is like insanity to me. But the bottom line is that when it comes to stuff that really, really matters, all of a sudden we don't have the patience for it because it's like we haven't been trained to. Our brains, first of all, don't want it. And then all of a sudden, our society and culture creates this whole little mini world around making sure that we're getting things like right when we ask for it, right? Like, so the stuff that matters, like writing that book or really, you know, building a business that brings an income and brings, you know, you deep happiness and joy and fulfillment and all those kinds of things, and strengthening your body, that stuff, it all that stuff takes time. It's not gonna be where you're able to drive through a window. Can you imagine be able to drive through a window and be like, I like to order a complete book written by me, you know, that is like bestseller for five years and book tours booked out for you know a solid year and getting paid, da-da-da-da. Like, no, you can't do that. But our you our brains are used to that kind of a thing. So when the results don't show up right away, the brain freaks out. The brain freaks, totally freaks out. This isn't working, you're wasting your time, maybe it's not meant to be. It's not true though. It's not true. It's just your brain trying to avoid the discomfort of waiting, of being patient. Here's the a little hopeful part of it. Patience is something that we can retrain ourselves to be. It's not a personality trait, it's just a practice. You know, one of my kids has had eczema for a very long time, and they love to eat uh cheese toast. I don't know if that is how you say it in the proper English, cheese toasting, cheese toast, I don't know. But I mean, that's like a combination, I guess, of Hebrew and English, but um, that's how we all speak here. But basically, yeah, she loves cheese toast sandwiches. Anyways, so you know, we to take her to acupuncture for the eczema, and her acupuncturist is like, listen, you can't eat these things. If you want eczema to go away, you cannot be eating bread, cheese, all these kinds of things. And, you know, this is her comfort food. Like, she loves this thing. She, this is like her solid, what she has for lunch every day. But the acupuncturist is like, you can't have this. It's like, you know, like what's the point of doing this acupuncture if then you're going back and you're feeding your body what it doesn't want, doesn't need. So she it took her a while, but when she finally got into a place of like, okay, you know what? I am more committed to getting rid of this than eating these cheese toe sandwiches. Like, I'm more, I'm willing to put that, you know, really work on trying to like stop eating those things so I can get rid of this eczema. So she started changing slowly by slowly. And she would, you know, she was, you know, in a habit that even when she started to kind of stop eating them, when I'd be like, okay, so what do you want for lunch? She would automatically be like, oh, cheese toast. And then she's like, oh, right. She'd forgotten that she like didn't eat those things. But then over time, she her brain remembered. So she would be giving me the other options of a quinoa salad or whatever she was eating, sushi, whatever it was. And when she I remember her telling me, she's like, you know, Ima, she's like, I actually don't desire them anymore. I don't want them anymore. I don't like she had completely kind of kicked it out of her system, both in her, you know, her brain of like immediate immediate get go to go to of like saying I want a cheese to sandwich, to then also like not desiring anymore. It took a little while, but eventually it just stopped. She's even stopped. She's a stopped asking for it, she stopped desiring it, right? It wasn't part of their her default anymore. So it's a pretty it can be slow, but you have to take it slow and you have to take it repetitive, repeat it over and over, but it works. And the same thing applies when you're building something that really matters to you. You have to keep showing up long enough for your brain to stop panicking and start recognizing this new way of being safe. That it's okay, that this is that we can do this in a safe kind of way too. So, you know, here's what actually happens. You start something new, you're excited, you're all in. And then in a few weeks later, it's slower than you freaking hoped. And your brain starts to pipe in with all of its piping in things and says, you know, this is hard. We've done easier things before, okay? So why don't we just go back to that? And your brain's a genius. He knows exactly what to say and how to kind of maneuver its way into getting what it's want because you know, your brain loves efficiency. It loves, you know, just being an autopilot. It wants to use as little energy as possible. I know you guys have heard me say this over and over, but it's so important for us to remember where our brain is coming from with all these things. So it usually gives, you know, you two choices. Either get the results right now, like two seconds ago, or go back to what's comfortable. Those are like your two options. And that's where most of us give up. That that exact moment. Like, listen, either can you get the results like right now? Because if you can't, then the other option is just kind of going back to what you, you know, status quo. And we can you actually can see this in kids. You know, toddlers are incredible, by the way. They're like, we have so much to learn from those little guys. I mean, also they have a lot to learn from us. But, you know, they'll try for like 20 minutes straight to like shove a crayon, pencil, or whatever it is into a sharpener. Totally determined. They will not give up, they do not want any help, they're gonna go for it, right? That is not how most of us work. Most of us would be giving up in about 20 seconds of like if we couldn't figure out how to get that pencil into the sharp sharpener. And older kids are the same way, right? They try once, they try twice, it doesn't work, they're done, that's it. Like, move it on. I guess I can't do this, I guess I'm not somebody who does this. But if something doesn't work right, just we assume that's not meant to be. But that's why success is so rare. Because the folks who are who are successful are willing to do those things over and over. But most important, they're willing to learn how to be patient, how to create that patient way wired in their brain to stick around and be there. Right? Not because people don't know how to do these things, because we can literally, by the way, the people success is not because people know how to do things. Because we can chat GPT anything. We can chat GPT the exact, you know, step by step by step how to do something. That's not that's not gonna bring you success, right? It's it's when we are able to stay in it long enough to wire that part of our brain that wants out. There's so much part of our brain that's like, I want to get I want to stop, I want to get out of here. And if we come back to it over and over, which takes a lot, it's really uncomfortable to do that. Which is why we most people don't want to do that. But if we're able to do that, we can really we wire our brain to not wanting to leave every time it gets hard. And this the the the the real skill isn't like knowing what to do, it's staying long enough here in this place to do it. So what do we do? How do we keep ourselves in it? Especially those moments when we want to give up. But deep down we know we don't actually want to. The answer is this we need to show ourselves progress. This is like a key component of it all. Okay, because we aren't gonna make we success is not gonna happen. We're not gonna like the things that really, really matter deep down are not gonna happen in a second, like Amazon Prime. So we need to kind of give our human brains a little something to work off of, right? We need to sh be able to show a little progress so that would encourage us to keep on going, especially for all my ADHD H D H D A D'Rs How do you say that? ADHD, something like that, out there. I know I've got a lot of clients with ADHD, a lot of friends, all those kinds of things, like even more so, right? We need to they need to have like we all need this, but it's like we need to know that there is progress happening in order to kind of encourage us to keep going. Like even tiny, small baby steps. Our brains need that evidence that we're do what we're doing here matters, that it's working, even just a little bit. Because when we see progress, we stay in the game. You know, I always say one day I want to give every new, you know, new coaching client a little sapling tree when they start working with me. This is something I kind of came up with in the very beginning of my coaching. I really wanted to buy, I really want to buy the issue is I haven't been able to figure out how to like properly mail it to them, but and it can be quite expensive, but I would I would love to buy every single one of my new clients a sapling tree that they can put into their garden, plant on the day of our first session together, and take care of it, water it, all the kind of stuff. Kind of like a kindergarten project, but mostly because that's what business is or any dream at all, what it looks like, what it feels like. You plant it, you water it, you feed it, and for a long, long, long time, long, long time, it looks like nothing is happening. But then one day, when you, you know, year, two years, three years, and you walk back in, you know, you come back home from a day out, and you walk into your backyard and you see that tree, it's become like a tree that has growth, that is tall, that is mighty, that is strong. It just takes time. And I want this like sapling to be a reminder to them like, don't rush it. Don't think that you're supposed to be somewhere else that you're not, and oh my gosh, don't panic. This is literally how it's supposed to be. And this kind of this whole notion of like that we need to feed our minds, you know, we have to tell ourselves that we are like making progress, even in small ways, in order to kind of keep sticking around and not giving up. You know, this is this moment that I had a few weeks ago in the grocery store kind of reminded me of this because, you know, a few few weeks ago I was in a local, my local health food store, food shopping for my fam, and when I went to go check out, I see there's two checkout lines. One that had like, I don't know, it was longer, it was like maybe six, seven people, and the other one that had two people. So, like obviously, I was gonna pick the shorter one. So I hop into this, you know, the two-person line and I'm standing there. And, you know, as I think most of us we got involved in the phones, I'm like returning a message. My daughter left me, you know, just checking Instagram, whatever it is. And then finally I look up and I realize like this line has not moved at all. And I look over to a longer line, I see that they've like already gotten two, three, two or three people through the line. And I was like, what's going on here? And so I, you know, I think the what happened in my line, by the way, in case you're curious, what the one woman had some credit card issue, isn't it the worst? And I feel so bad for like the person who has a credit card issue, they always feel so bad. Another person, like, oh, they forgot their oat milk, whatever. It was just taking time. So I hop into the longer line, you know, and I'm there. And I'm like thinking, like, it's so interesting because bottom line is I know that I'm going to get to the my end goal here, which is to check out my groceries, get into my car, and go home in both lines. It doesn't matter. But just being in a line that's moving, that's showing progress, even though it's like double, almost triple the size of that first line, makes me feel better. Like there's things happening there. And that's what this is. This this idea that I'm sharing here is the same kind of thing. And I think at the end, if I recall, I actually finished, I got checked out. I was like maybe person number eight in that longer line of the two-person thing. And I got out of the line, like I checked all my stuff out the same time that second person was about to walk out the door, also. So it was like the timing was about the same, but I felt so much better being in that longer line that was actually moving and knowing, okay, there's progress here. We're moving, we're moving here. It's it's all happening. Which is, you know, which was what kind of like, yeah, that's so interesting. This idea of like our brains just need to know, all they need to know is that there is progress happening here. We don't actually need things to go fast, to move to move fastly. We just need to feel like we are not stuck. And that's why it's so important to find ways to show ourselves movement in our lives. And I want to share, and I want to do that exact thing with you right now. I want to share with you a few ways in which you can teach yourself that you can show yourself that there is progress happening, that even if you're not at the end, whatever that is, right? The end goal, that you don't have to give up because there's total progress happening here. Because a lot of times you're not gonna see that with business, with weight loss, with writing a book. I mean, truly anything that's actually important, it's not gonna happen overnight. So we want to be able to show ourselves that we can, that we're slowly making progress. So here are a few different tips I want to give you guys. Number one is an end-of-day celebration. I think celebrating is just a great idea all overall, but really making this ritual where you take a minute at the end of the day to sit down and notice what went, what what was moving? What progress did you see in your your day? And specifically even more in these, in a goal that you're working towards, even the tiniest kind of win. You know, you want to ask yourself, where did I show up for myself today here? You know, where did I see if I if you're working on a, you know, if you're working on like a weight loss, this is just kind of the easiest thing to pull from. But if you're working, let's say, on a weight loss kind of goal, really looking at, you know, what kind of food you ate here today. Did it feel good? Did it feel like more aligned with your your your emotional experience, your body than it has in a while? Where did you work out? Maybe, you know, you've been working working on your working out program, and you know, you've been working out for like 15 minutes, and then today you jumped it to 20. You know, really look at like what happened today, what can I celebrate, what kind of progress do I see in my day? Okay, so that's one way in which you can really measure your that you're moving forward, that there's real progress here. Number two is another thing called look at the it's called like a you know, more like of a week, a weekly rating check-in. And this is something that I do with my clients, well, before they become clients, when I do on a coaching consult, I'll take my folks, anybody who's coming in and checking out coaching with me, will do a coaching consult, and I will take them through an exercise. Well, I'll have them rate from one to ten different areas of their life, right? One being like, oh, I do not feel good about this area of my life, and ten being like, I feel freaking fantastic. And then if they sign on for coaching with me, you know, three months or so into the coaching, I will then retake this, I will redo this exercise and do a check-in with them and ask them the same areas of their life. And then I'll share with them what they shared with me three, three or four months ago in their consult and what they said now. And they can see the immense amount of progress, right? So for example, like if in the consult they rated, let's say, a relationship to with their kids, you know, a six, because, you know, while they feel lots of love for their kids and they feel like their kids love them, they don't feel like they have enough one-on-one dates with their kids, they don't feel like they spend enough time reading, whatever it is. And then by three months into coaching, they're at an eight and a half, and all the reasons why, they'll see, whoa, that's progress. It's not a ten yet, but four months in, I'm already jumped a few points. That feels pretty fantastic, which is an amazing thing to see. So that's a really important, uh, a really great way to easily mark how much progress you've made in a week. Kind of giving yourself, like, you know, on a Sunday, you know, different kinds of areas, different kinds of places that you want to focus in. If it's a particular goal or whatever it is, rating them from one to ten, and then by the end of the week, doing it all over again. Okay. Then the the third one I wanted to mention was basically like setting a benchmark before you decide to throw in the towel, quit to give up, quote unquote. All these are quote unquote. I don't love the the the the notion, the the wording of getting to give up or even quitting, to tell you the truth, again, because I think that it's like sometimes there's time to do it, sometimes there's not. But, you know, if you're feeling unsure, giving yourself a clear benchmark before you decide is a good idea. I know I have one, I have a client who kind of was flip-flopping around creating different kinds of businesses. She's got lots of passion, she's got lots of creativity, she's got lots of talent in lots of areas. So when working with her, she was kind of like, you know, I really want to do this. And we kind of go into this. And then she's like, actually, I really want to be doing this. So by the third time she did that, I was like, listen, what's gonna happen here is that we are going to go all in here. You're already really good at it. You do it, you love it. We're gonna stick to this plan until you've marketed and landed four clients and took them through the pro their the programs of coaching that you're doing. And then after that, you can reevaluate and decide, do I want to stay or do I want to go? But if you keep on flip-flopping, you're not gonna get real information. You're not gonna really know, like, is this for me or is this not for me? So setting a benchmark before you decide to quit is a great way to do it. It gives you like a, you know, real place to kind of keep your focus, right? And kind of give your brain some kind of place to like an endpoint to hold on to. So it's not like so in a rush to kind of just quit right away. It's like you can tell your brain, like, you can quit. It's okay. Like that might happen at the end, but we're not gonna do it until, you know, we're four clients in or we've sold this amount of, you know, workshop classes or whatever it is. Yeah. Okay. Okay, last one. Have someone who reminds you how far you have come. Because when you're in it, you can't see it. That is the bottom line. You're too close to it. That could be a friend you check in with regularly, or someone who's also, you know, work and preferably someone who's working on the same kind of thing. That's always a great thing. It could be a coach, right? This is honestly one of my favorite parts of coaching. I get to be the one to show you what you can't see, right? The progress that's happening quietly in the background. You know, our brains are again wired to look for danger, to look for what's not working. It goes for that first. It will never go for like, oh, I see progress. I see that it's happening. It's not going to choose that. So oftentimes we need people outside of us to be able to show us that in order to create more progress, in order to stay in the game, in order to not give up. You know, so we can reach we can train ourselves to do that. So these are the four different ways in which we can help, you know, measure our progress, remind ourselves it's okay. I know it's taking a while. I get that. But also, like there's progress being made, which means that you are moving towards your goal. And that means that what you want to accomplish, it's gonna happen. It's just not gonna happen, you know, like an Amazon package gonna happen, but it's totally gonna happen. Just keep on going, right? That's a beautiful, gentle way to kind of do that. So listen, guys, there are times when it's right to close a chapter and move on 100%. And there are also times when quitting is just coming from fear, it's just coming from deep fear and impatience to want to stick around and see what happens. And that's where this work helps. Learning how to stay in it long enough to prove to yourself that you can and really decide if this is what you're wanting or not. Right? That's a really, a really important piece. We want to know if what we're wanting to do and if we're saying that we're giving up, if we feel expansion in our hearts, like if we feel expansion in our bodies, like like I said, like my client who I was I was coaching on the group call last night, when I, you know, had when we when I was coaching her and I shared, like, listen, it could be that this is complete, that this this part has happened, it's been deep, it's been meaningful, it's changed lives, it changed your life, and it's complete. And the moment I said that, she just like lit up. It was like crazy. It was just it's clear that her body was like, yes, yes, that's what it is, right? Or if it's like, I'm just scared to keep going, I don't know what's gonna happen, and I'm not believing that it's gonna happen. So kind of freaking out about it, and all those kinds of things. We want to know which one it is. That's kind of where it starts. Okay. So this work, this coaching work, this is where it's at. This is what I love doing with you guys. And I'd love to invite you into my coaching world if this is something that you want to explore, and if you find that a lot of times you are like, you know, doing something excited about it, and then giving it up, throwing in the towel sooner than you'd want. I want you to come explore this with me. Okay, you can do that with on a one-on-one coaching call, like I imagined, or you can join my next free group coaching call next month. Both are beautiful ways to experience this work and see what's possible for you. And you can get all the details on my website on tomardocoaching.com. I just love you guys so much. I love that you're here. I love that you're constantly working on yourself and you're in it. You're in it. You're in it to not just live, but you're in it to be alive. And I love that for you. So thanks again for listening. Thanks for being here, and I will see you all next week. Love you guys.