Brave Little Things
Bravery isn’t always about facing your fears head-on or accomplishing the impossible. Sometimes, being brave means knowing when to quit, deciding you’re already whole and enough, or choosing not to do the so-called “brave thing” simply because it’s not what you want.
Brave Little Things is about redefining what it means to show up courageously in life and business, taking small, sustainable steps that help us feel more at home in ourselves. Through raw storytelling, diverse insights, practical tools, and real-life practices, we’ll explore all the ways bravery shows up in everyday moments. Most importantly, you’ll feel held as we navigate these conversations together. Because if there’s one thing I know about building a brave, full life, it’s that doing it together makes it so much easier.
What does it mean to choose a brave life—slowly, intentionally, and on your terms? Let’s go there.
Brave Little Things
Stop Making Self-Doubt Mean Something it Doesn't
Self-doubt isn’t the villain. We just keep giving her the mic and treating her that way.
In episode 4, I’m breaking down why that naggy little voice saying “you’re not good enough” is NOT actually a problem… and how to stop letting it derail your dreams, desires, and even day.
You’ll get two juicy mindset shifts that will totally change how you relate to doubt, plus some real-life wisdom and a few mic-drop moments from my own brain and future self.
If you’ve ever felt like self-doubt means you’re doing it wrong, this one’s here to prove you’re doing something very right and incredibly brave.
Hit play, and let’s un-drama the doubt together.
You know that little voice that whispers, you're not good enough. You should definitely not do that. You would not know what to do if you did it. You know that one? So annoying, right guys? But what if I told you that that voice isn't actually a problem? What if self-doubt wasn't something to fix or fight, but just simply knowing that it was a part of being a human being?
Speaker 00:Today we're talking about why self-doubt is not as big of a deal as we make it to be and how to stop letting it run the show.
Speaker 00:Hey guys, welcome back to Brave Little Things. I'm so happy to be back here with you guys. In this episode, I'm going to share two mindset shifts that have changed the way I deal with self-doubt. One that makes it less powerful, self-doubt that is, and one that helps you move forward anyway, even with self-doubt being there. Plus, I'll give you a few practical ways to handle that voice when it shows up so you can keep taking brave action no matter what and not getting stuck and in freeze mode and not being able to move forward.
Speaker 00:So here's the thing, guys. Self-doubt, it touches everybody, like everyone. No one is immune to that little voice that says, you're not good enough. I really think about this all the time when I'm watching celebrities or I'm hearing interviews of them. you know, I remember hearing some interview with JLo and I forgot the exact words that she brought up, but it was basically like, I was very surprised to hear this kind of like self-doubt voice, right? I think that's actually a lot of her song. You know, Jenny from the block is a lot about like, don't worry guys. See, like I'm still the same person. Don't worry about me. Right. There's like, there's like a self-doubt that's like kind of lining it where you can feel it. It's like every single person on this planet is not immune to self-doubt. So, That little voice, right, that keeps on saying you're not good enough. And it's, of course, there's all different variations of that, right? And it happens whether it's in your business, your relationships, or even when you're just going about your day, it shows up. And let me tell you, it can be a total freaking buzzkill, especially when you're trying to be brave and put yourself out there and do new things.
Speaker 00:I remember a few years back, I had planned an unbelievable trip to Tanzania, to Africa with one of my best friends. And it was this incredible safari. And then we're going to go to Zanzibar, the island, all the different stuff. And I spent months planning this trip. And I love travel. And I love planning travel, the whole thing. And I was just having a blast with the whole experience. And then the day comes for us to go on this trip. And I get into the car. My husband's driving me to the airport. And out of nowhere... there comes all the self-doubt like flying in, like seriously out of nowhere. Like, oh my God, but what if you get sick on like day one? And what if you actually do get malaria? And what if like it rains the entire time and you can't even see any animal? Like all this stuff is coming out of nowhere. And like, you know, are you going to know what to do? This is like our first trip away from kids, away from business, the whole thing. And it was just like all of a sudden, it was all this like self-doubt that was like, I'm coming with you, right? And that's how it is.
Speaker 00:I'm sure you all know very well that self-doubt voice because she loved to show up uninvited and she loved to show up at every location. She is very persistent. She's very consistent as well. So if you ever think of yourself as a non-consistent or non-persistent person, know that you're wrong, that you've got this voice that's living inside of you that actually is very persistent and very consistent. So I want to offer you a fresh perspective today on how to deal with their dear old friend self-doubt. And maybe it'll help you work with it a little bit better, right? The idea is not to get rid of it because that's impossible. We just can't, just like fear, right? It's a version of fear, but it's something that's going to be with us. So the first thing is this. Everyone at some point thinks to themselves, I'm not good enough. And again, it's different variations of that. I don't know how to do this. I'm not sure I'm the person for the job. You know, not even applying for a job, you know, because you already think that you're not good at all these different kinds of things. The only people who don't think that thought are sociopaths and toddlers. And they've got their own issues, right, guys? Right. So it's like, unless you want to be in the camp of sociopaths and toddlers, you It just ultimately means you have a healthy human brain.
Speaker 00:When we try something new or face something unfamiliar, our brains often say, I'm not good enough. And then we oftentimes feel the shame for not being good enough, thinking about something's wrong with us. What is wrong with us that we aren't good enough for this, that we don't know how to do this, right? That shame makes us want to stop trying and hide far, far away. But here's the thing about shame, and this is good to know just in general, guys, when any shame comes up. Shame only survives in the dark and in hiding. If we bring it to light and stop making it such a big deal, it starts to lose its power, right? So when we start to share our shame, right? I just got off a coaching call actually with a client who was like, I'm really ashamed to share this with you. And she went on to share like a few different kinds of things. The moment she said it out loud and she also saw how I took it, which was like, it was literally no big deal. Like I've heard it millions of different times. It's very human. it dissipated by 50%, right? That's how shame works.
Speaker 00:I remember a road trip, an amazing road trip. We took a few years back with my whole crew. We went out to California and Oregon and drove down the coast, or rather Oregon and California. We spent three months driving down the coast of these two amazing states. And we just spent our days camping and hiking and swimming in lakes. And it was just so amazingly magical, right? And, you know, of course, it's like a road trip down these two different big states, and it takes a long time. And as we're driving down the coast, I forgot which specific drive. I think this was in California. One of my kids kept saying over and over, I'm so bored. We've been driving forever. I'm so bored. And I'll be honest. Thank God, actually, my kids are like, they don't usually go that direction, which I know that there's definitely lots of kids that do. I think I probably was one of those kind of kids. And so it kind of stood out to me a little bit more. And also, listen, we live in Israel. So, you know, where everything's pretty small, close by. So I got where she's coming from. It really was, you know, a long drive as well. But this is what I told her. I said, yeah, I totally get it. Driving for a long time can be really boring, right? Like after you've gone through all of your Legos and we sung all the songs and you're just staring out the window, like it can be really boring. But you know what? most people would feel the exact same way you do right now. If they were sitting in a car driving for the next, you know, five hours or whatever it is, this isn't actually a problem. Being bored is not actually a problem. It just is. It's just something. And also when you're not feeling like you want to be bored anymore, you can do that. Like, you know, I've got a couple more games here. I can, you know, pass you back a snack. You can have a conversation with one of your siblings. Like there are options here, but also being bored is not a problem. And guess what, guys? That's exactly how self-doubt works too. It's literally not a problem.
Speaker 00:The issue that we have with self-doubt is that we think that it's a problem. We think that something has gone very wrong with us. It's just part of the journey. It's just a part of like what's happening. It's a part of when you take yourself into new territory and experience and do new things. That's when self-doubt comes up, right? But it's literally not a problem.
Speaker 00:The second hack I have for you guys today is right, is I like to ask myself when self-doubt comes and does her thing, what does my future self, the best version of me and the one who's ahead of the game, right, she's already ahead of the journey, what does she know that I don't right now? Instead of thinking I have no idea how to do that, I can shift into a mode of I have everything I need right now to figure this out, right, because I have all I have my past, present, and future self living inside of me. And so I can tap into her, the future self, who's already done the thing that I'm feeling all the self-doubt around. I have her, and I can ask her, like, what does she know that I don't know that could help me through this? That simple shift is so magical. The moment when you ask this question, it can feel almost like your brain shifting into more confident and empowered space, kind of what your future self is probably feeling and thinking, right? So one time I asked myself this question, and I even wrote down some of the thoughts in my journal. I'm so glad I saved this journal because I go back to this all the time. I just want to share some of the thoughts that I wrote down and totally feel free to steal them, to borrow them, to whatever, the next time you're feeling this kind of self-doubt mode. So here they are.
Speaker 00:Self-doubt always shows up when you're about to do something badass. Let her come, but don't let her run the show. That is a very important piece. Let her in, but don't let her run the show. You're running the show. See self-doubt as a badge of honor. She's proof you're doing something really courageous. That's a really important one, guys, because folks who do not feel self-doubt and experience self-doubt, it's because they're not putting themselves in what quote-unquote harms way. They're not challenging themselves. So they're kind of really comfortable sitting on their couch, doing the same job that they've always done, dating the same person that they've always dated, da-da-da-da-da, and they're not going to feel self-doubt. But we sometimes kind of fool ourselves in thinking that being comfortable and feeling safe is the way to go. But when you're doing something brave, that's when self-doubt comes. And a couple more thoughts. When she pops up, invite her in for a cup of kombucha or whatever your favorite beverage is. Let her speak, but make sure to speak your truth right back. This is no longer a dialogue. No, sorry. This is no longer a monologue. This is now a dialogue. You've got something to say. And lastly, be the authority. Recognize that self-doubt only shows up when you're about to do something amazing. That's been a really big help for me. When self-doubt comes up, I really use it as like an alarm, a sounding alarm, like beep, beep, cool, brave action happening, cool, brave thing you're about to do, like, let's go. The more that you practice this, the more the second nature becomes, right? This is definitely a skill. And the more you do, it becomes more natural, less awkward, all those kinds of things. All right, listen, guys, my final thoughts on this, well, maybe, I don't know, there might be more. Let's see what happens. What if self-doubt wasn't actually about you, right? That's kind of what happens, right? When self-doubt comes up, it feels so heavy because it feels so personal, right? Because it's like, it is thoughts about you, right? Like you can't do this. You don't know what, you know, what's happening. You know, you've never done this before, all those kinds of things. But what if self-doubt wasn't actually about you? What if it was just your brain doing what brains do, right? Which is trying to keep you safe, even when you don't need protection, right? Obviously, our brains mean well, and it's trying to do things that mean well. But truly, you don't need the protection, but your brain's thinking you do. So maybe this is like not even about you at all. So it's like your brain's issue, right? Nothing to do with you at all. Imagine if every time self-doubt popped up, you just kind of shrugged and thought, oh, right, that again. Instead of making it mean something about you. So really, guys, self-doubt is proof, is not proof. Self-doubt is not actually proof that you're not good enough. It's proof that you're stepping up. It's like background noise. It's only loud when you're moving forward. The key isn't to make it disappear, but to stop letting it run the show. It's always going to be there. But this time, this time around now, with these different kinds of mind shifts you have now in your back pockets, you're not going to let it run the show. That's the biggest deal.
Speaker 00:Okay, so here's my challenge for you guys for this week. The next time self-doubt shows up, instead of making it mean something about you, I want you to ask yourself, what if self-doubt, again, wasn't actually about me? I want you to try that on. I want you to try that on and try to shift yourself, kind of create a barrier between you and your self-doubt, that you're not the same thing.
Speaker 00:Your self-doubt is something and you are something separate from that. And to really create a separation there. And that really allows you to remember that this is not a problem, right? This is not a problem that's coming up. It's actually, on some level, a good thing. I started personally, started really looking forward to it. I started when self-doubt came up. I really knew that was like, oh, man, I'm doing something that most people would not be doing right now. And that's kind of cool, right? That's kind of a very cool kind of thing. And it made me feel this like pride, which, by the way, is my favorite emotion on the planet, which really felt really great. That's what I have for you guys today.
Speaker 00:I really hope that you find that these mind shifts can really help you when self-doubt is doing its persistent, consistent thing, coming at you on all ends. and really kind of taking it, helping it kind of dilute it, right? Taking it down a notch and recognizing that you can be in the same room with self-doubt and that's not a problem. And you can be in the room with self-doubt and still go ahead forward in creating the new cool offer you want to do in your business or planning an epic, unbelievable trip abroad somewhere, or, you know, go ahead and start to really raise money for that studio that you want to purchase to make whatever this kind of brave thing that's happening for you, desires happening for you, that you can do that and still have self-doubt in the room and not make it such a big deal.
Speaker 00:All right, my brave tribe. I love you guys so much. We're like out there doing great little things every day. It's pretty freaking fantastic. I love you all. Have a beautiful week and I will see you next time.